I am what I choose to be and not what others wish I would be.
I write for myself and others. An attempt of self exploration and a constant try to solve the puzzles of the world. Some discoveries, some failures. An account of who I am and who I am tying to be through the observation of the world around me.
Some entertainment, some facts, some reality, some poetry, its all I am. Its all I can give. Words are all I have here..
This actually took me some time to compose. To be honest, I think the whole pop-culture thing about having a ‘criteria’ for your ‘ideal’ man/woman or whether he/she is a 5 or a 10 to be pure nonsense, but here I am doing the same thing I saw on television shows growing up.
1. Funny boys
Before anyone says this is unfair, I think everyone has a funny streak somewhere in them. If you’ve laughed at least once in you life, you have proven your appreciation of humor. When you become comfortable around another person, you allow yourself to become funnier. It doesn’t matter whether someone dwells in sarcastic humor, light humor, silly humor, clumsy humor, etc. as long as I laugh, I will like you to some degree.
3. Eye contact
Oh the amount of guys that I have met who did a weird thing with their eyes they…
Today I experienced a strange realization. I returned home giving my Services Marketing Management paper thanks to the university exams of third year Bachelors’ in Management Studies and I started telling my family about it. About the details of it.
However it shouldn’t have come as a surprise to me that they did not understand a word of it. Even when I was expressing my joy about the fact that I stated our family business as my exam matter, they just did not register what I was saying. I then put my bizarre mind to some rest and thinking.
Why are studies in commerce put on such a high pedestal? I had to change my subjects from humanities in high school to management in college because my family strongly felt that I need to know it. Though I admit that it has helped me in becoming a more confident and a smarter person, (thanks to hundred eyeballs starting at you while you present on some nonsensical theory topic)
The statistics in Times of India today just prove my point further. This year 30% graduates from MBA schools of India are jobless compared to 10% internationally. Yet, there continues to be a growing trend of second year college students enrolling for CAT coaching. Most are doing it for the sake of it and some are keeping it as a backup. Most horrifying act is same are doing it because of societal pressures!
MBA today has become an even more monstrous trend among the middle class as it were before in spite of its failure of give cent percent placements to all. As I read on this little news piece today, I wondered about the devastation that the graduates with overfilled eyes of hope must be going through. After all, don’t people do MBA to land those 7-15 lakh pay checks? What when there is no one to offer them those hefty amount?
Moral of the story: To earn money or become something, two years of slogging in a management school in your sturdy youth are not the solution to your problems. You might just be unemployment like thousands of Indians today. Don’t just do MBA or CA just because you want lots of money in life but otherwise have no interest in the field what-so-ever.
Work hard instead. Cultivate a dream. And start living it. Money? That will just follow when you are giving your best to what you love. My guarantee!
1. To the movies. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again – this is one of the most liberating, pleasant experiences ever. No sharing snacks, hearing opinions on the previews or responsibilities other than to enjoy the film, and yourself.
2. Cheap buffet. Usually I like to wait all day to eat, only having a snack here and there – you know, like appetite foreplay. A handful of Doritos for breakfast, a Fruit Rollup for lunch – just to get the juices flowing, the mouth watering. Then, when hunger is at its climax, you go to your buffet and make them reconsider their all-you-can-eat policies.
3. A nostalgic ride down memory lane. This could be anything from watching your old VHS tapes, to searching YouTube for your favorite childhood programs, to flipping through the pages of your middle/high school yearbooks. Reflecting alone may make you emotional, but it could…
Yes! Your time on Earth is limited and with each ticking second, its getting wasted. There is an old Hindi saying, “Jo sota hai, woh khota hai” (the one who sleeps, loses on to things). But that doesn’t mean that you won’t sleep at all. Rest is also important but just enough of how much we need.
“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone”
― Pablo Picasso
Picasso was one artist so obsessed with making the most of his time, that he took a nap after every four hours and worked day and night to create his now master pieces.
Yet there are so many of us going about our hum-drum lives, living the daily routine like immorality is inscribed in our destiny. Waking up at a fixed time, and sleeping at one, and everything in between is all but undone. Everyday has a purpose. Stop coming up with endless excuses to snug into your comfort and act now! Just take care of the minutes and the hours will take care of themselves. Break your comfort zone and reach out to that long-pending activity because today will die tomorrow.
The question here is how selfish are you allowed to be?
In a society which values maintaining relationships over focusing on individual self, we are often made to feel guilty when we start thinking about ourselves. “Emotional Atyachar(torture)”, as its often joked about as, is a soft, cushy weapon with a long lasting effect on our decisions. But till what level is it acceptable to think about others before you think about yourself, To live for your family and friend’s contentment. Not at the cost of over shadowing your own needs.
It is important to be assertive. You need to be practical headed. But success in career is best when complimented with success in relationships and to maintain a balance between the two is not an easy task at all. Strive to excel but am sure you don’t want to be alone at the top. You need people to raise your toast with. To celebrate!
Each of us, as individuals have our own wishes, demands, hopes and dreams to fulfill. But if all of us start thinking only about ourselves, then the world will become a difficult place to live in. Life is about little compromises here and there. If you expect others to be there for you at your low times, you ought to try and be there at their needy times.
You have to think who are worth your effort and time. Family? Friends? Girl friend/ Boy friend? You, yourself? After all everything is working on a stop watch, so you gotta act quick. Your time on earth is limited.
This four letter word called fate is defined as a power or agency that predetermines and orders the course of events. Events, as they are ordered or “inevitable” and unavoidable.
Well, some of you might dismiss the very idea nonchalantly as being frivolous. You get what you work for. Right? But what about the people you meet, the connections you built. That little voice of instinct inside each of us which guides our actions when we just have nano seconds to spare!
Destiny, like god, ancient history, future predictions, is just a belief which some support with facts. It could be an excuse for someone looking back, failing to reason out those unexplainable events of their life.
So it does not matter if you believe in destiny or not! Because at some point in each one of our lives, we find ourselves living up random moments with once random people and we can’t reason exactly how and why we are where we are. Some decisions are made beyond us. Some we make. But we too make them in accordance to the universe and the universe has its own ball games.
We all slip in and do things that we aren’t suppose to. The mistakes which are not the regrets.
In this materialistic world of juxtapositions, does anyone actually love you at the age of 20. At an age when all you love is money? And all they see is sex? How do you know if its the emotions or the hormones manipulating your actions all the while.
Baseless relationships, irrelevant jobs, struggling academics, can be a strong recipe to arrive your adulthood with a bundle full of bumps. Either ways we have to deal with them. Yes, we all do make some wrong choices on our way. But the question here is, do we always get to amend them? Or are we just suppose to learn from our mistakes and move on.
I guess the right choice is to walk on with a high head because with every night, there is a new day of maturity that awaits us. What we need to do is, look those mistakes in the eye and accept them as done by our younger self. After all, if not everyone, we must give ourselves a second chance to improve and trust in that chance.