Living for yourself or others?

It’s fine to be selfish once in a while. Right? 

The question here is how selfish are you allowed to be? 

In a society which values maintaining relationships over focusing on individual self, we are often made to feel guilty when we start thinking about ourselves. “Emotional Atyachar(torture)”, as its often joked about as, is a soft, cushy weapon with a long lasting effect on our decisions. But till what level is it acceptable to think about others before you think about yourself, To live for your family and friend’s contentment. Not at the cost of over shadowing your own needs.

It is important to be assertive. You need to be practical headed. But success in career is best when complimented with success in relationships and to maintain a balance between the two is not an easy task at all. Strive to excel but am sure you don’t want to be alone at the top. You need people to raise your toast with. To celebrate!

Each of us, as individuals have our own wishes, demands, hopes and dreams to fulfill. But if all of us start thinking only about ourselves, then the world will become a difficult place to live in. Life is about little compromises here and there. If you expect others to be there for you at your low times, you ought to try and be there at their needy times.

You have to think who are worth your effort and time. Family? Friends? Girl friend/ Boy friend? You, yourself? After all everything is working on a stop watch, so you gotta act quick. Your time on earth is limited.Image



Each one of us carries this really enormous universes inside our tiny brains. These universes, become active when someone hints at your emotional cord. Some one has to call out to your EQ, for you to connect to it convincingly.

Some times, there happens to be minor setbacks in the working of these universes and that’s when things get out of control. When you are living an independent life in  the oceanic city of Mumbai, can you really afford to hope for a sincere advice? The ones we so proudly call our ‘family we choose’, are they worthy of the title? Till what extend can we put the responsibility of finding our solutions onto others? Each one of us seems to be fighting the biggest battle of our own. So how many battle fields can we possibly juggle before we crash mid crisis?

Instead of constantly being on a look out for that perfect mechanic, we ought to be ones own mechanic, to look after one’s own universe. If no human is perfect, then why damage our controls running after that perfection? We cannot be robots with no setbacks. There is beauty in every imperfection that we find ourselves in. There can be only one best mechanic, and that’s within each one of us fit for ourselves.